DEPRESSION IS A BIG PERSONAL PROBLEM

  

YOU DO REALIZE THAT DEPRESSION IS A BIG PERSONAL  PROBLEM IN MANY PEOPLE’S LIFE  EVEN CAUSE THEY DO NOT FACE THE ROOT, OTHER CAUSES OF IT BUT TOO OFTEN RATHER TRY TO MASK IT WITH DRUGS, MEDICATIONS, BOOZE, ACTIVITIES..

 

Face the single biggest cause of depression basically is your own doings and not just a bad marriage.. But don’t expect any marriage to make you happier over having a personal relationship with God still or the new or old marriage to be a false substitute for having a personal relationship with God. I have been recently counseling a person who desperately wants to be remarried, she has been twice married, but she is not interesting in following after God only after her own desires, lusts.. so no marriage for her will make her happy or replace God’s vacuum in her life still too. God has not promised you now even a right of remarriage.. but he promised you peace, joy and happiness and yes you can have that outside of marriage with Jesus..

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Some people are depressed cause they are on the wrong path all together and thus are lost but won’t admit it.

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Some people are falsely depressed cause they are lazy, unrealistic, control freaks, selfish, self centered..

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Depression is a serious problem it affects them and those around them negatively. It often produces personal negative acts  and most persons initially do not see that they are depressed.

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Sadly very few persons still do care about taking positive steps to insure a healthy body, or dealing with depression, those who do tend to do the absolute minimum.. most people do not know what to do or do not care to do anything until it is almost too late. Few people seriously read about these topics now too..

 

ADEQUATE SLEEP AND GOOD FOOD ARE A GOOD START

A person with severe depression has little or no interest in work, others  or hobbies, and may even have trouble getting out of bed… to depressed to eat or sleep even.  However, some people with depression don’t feel sad at all. Instead, they feel lifeless and empty. In this apathetic state, they are unable to experience pleasure. Even when participating in activities they used to enjoy, they feel as if they’re just going through the motions. The signs and symptoms vary from person to person, and they may wax and wane in severity over time.

 

To Help with many person’s medical symptoms of their diseases, depressions too  often we may still  have to deal with the root causes of the sicknesses too.. including the hypertensions,  stresses, anxieties, and our past wrong values, ignorance,  wrong doings too.

 

While clearly the medical advances against even the more serious sickness have taken gigantic leaps now these days, I sadly too often these  days have to tell many people  the truth, to the sick persons that next the patients themselves are now more too often to blame for their sudden deaths,  their illness ext  degenerating mostly too, even by

a) their  reaping what they sowed, by their own neglect of basic laws reaping relating to the to human anatomy too,

b) by their own failure to insure proper, healthy eating, 

d) their own  failure to get  proper sleep,

e) and their own failure to handle, resolve unbeneficial stress adequately

 

Unresolved depression lends itself to to thoughts of being abandoned, not loved and leads to bad physical health, thoughts and/or acts of suicides.

 

There is no single cause for depression. Many factors play a role including genetics, environment, life events, medical conditions, and the way people react to things that happen in their lives.

 

TREATMENTS FOR DEPRESSION typically have high success rates, especially when recognized, admitted, PROPERLY DIAGNOSED. Recognition of the problem often leads to 90 percent of the solution

 

Some people are depressed cause they are on the wrong path all together and thus are lost but won’t admit it.

Some people are falsely depressed cause they are lazy, unrealistic, control freaks, selfish, self centered..

 

While many others..

1: Not personally getting enough qualitative sleep.. it is not just how much sleep you get, minimum 8 hours, but how well you sleep that also counts. Valid Experts recommend that adults get between seven and eight hours of sleep each night to maintain good health and optimum performance.

2: Not personally now getting proper food intake can also lead to severe depression and very poor health next, severe health problems.. skipping out on meals..

3: Activity rut.. many people who have now set into  a none changing activities, environments, a habitual routine, are  next prone to be seriously depressed and they do not even know why?  Taking a new,  totally different activity, or making a personal life schedule change is often the same as a beneficial vacation for some persons.. even many professionals, college professors..

4: Many college students show clear classical sign of depression after being in school for a long period of time, working hard.

5: Many people get depressed when they get older, and lose a lot of friends, and have no one to talk to , just listening to them for a few minutes a day will really help them too

6: Many people get depressed because they are being falsely enslaved, oppressed, bullied by the bad persons.  Or they have too often listened to the bad advice  of others.

7: Poverty or even the opposite of having too much wealth can lead to thoughts of suicide, because of one’s inability to deal with the present circumstances effectively. Often brought on by too much self reliance.

 8: Persons who are overly lazy, unrealistic, have or follow a wrong value system, ill advised goals, continue to  do bad things,they will next be easily depressed too. Ironically they will next often  blame others for their depressions, bash others for it too.

While virtually anyone can develop depression, the people most likely to do so include—

• Relatives of depressed people, who are about twice as likely as average to become seriously depressed themselves
• Women, who suffer depression about twice as often as men
• The baby boom seniors,  generation, currently considered at greatest risk of all age groups
• The elderly, often as a reaction to physical deterioration and the loss of friends, families and rewarding activities
• Children who have suffered abuse or losses or who have a seriously depressed parent
• Chronically ill people
• Drug and alcohol abusers, liars, thieves, persons who continue in immoral acts

There’s a vast difference between “feeling depressed” and suffering from clinical depression. The despondency of clinical depression is unrelenting and overwhelming. Some people describe it as “living in a black hole” or having a feeling of impending doom. They can’t escape their unhappiness and despair. However, some people with depression don’t feel sad at all. Instead, they feel lifeless and empty. In this apathetic state, they are unable to experience pleasure. Even when participating in activities they used to enjoy, they feel as if they’re just going through the motions. The signs and symptoms vary from person to person, and they may wax and wane in severity over time. Doing nothing about it generally makes it worse next.

A deep emotional loss may also trigger biochemical changes that cause depression. Or the brain chemistry can change for no apparent reason.   Other diseases, including thyroid conditions, lupus, rheumatoid arthritis, hormonal imbalances, multiple sclerosis and some forms of cancer, can cause depression. Usually, treating the underlying diseases relieves the depression?

 

 

People suffering from chronic illnesses such as arthritis or heart disease may develop depression. For them, treating the depression often makes it easier to cope with the other chronic illness?

 

Life requires our personal positive continual adaptation to the ongoing, changing events that surround our life.

 

 

Dwelling on God can help one to feel better, improve oneself.

(Exo 33:14 KJV)  And he said, My presence shall go with thee, and I will give thee rest.

(Mat 11:28 KJV)  Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.

(Mark 10:14 KJV)   Suffer the little children to come unto me, and forbid them not: for of such is the kingdom of God.

(Gen 45:18 KJV)  And take your father and your households, and come unto me: and I will give you the good of the land of Egypt, and ye shall eat the fat of the land.

 

NO LIFE IS NOT FAIR

Ever since the fall of mankind in Adam and Eve the Devil has been making real havoc in this world, even in the personal lives of many persons… such is the reality of life for all of us..

 

BE REALISTIC AND NOT RATHER IN DENIAL  

 

Admit, recognize the actual events, surroundings that NOW  have befallen you.. your honest recognition of the situation will help to deal positively with it next too.

(1 Pet 5:8 KJV)  Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour: 9   Whom resist stedfast in the faith, knowing that the same afflictions are accomplished in your brethren that are in the world. 10  But the God of all grace, who hath called us unto his eternal glory by Christ Jesus, after that ye have suffered a while, make you perfect, stablish, strengthen, settle you. 11   To him be glory and dominion for ever and ever. Amen.

(Eccl 8:6 KJV)  Because to every purpose there is time and judgment, therefore the misery of man is great upon him.

 

BAD THINGS ALSO DO HAPPEN TO GOOD PEOPLE

  

For the grass is likely not greener in the neighbors yards, likely you really do not know they hardships they too do face, encounter.. 

 

(1 Cor 10:13 KJV)  There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.

 

(2 Cor 4:17 KJV)  For our light affliction, which is but for a moment, worketh for us a far more exceeding and eternal weight of glory; 18   While we look not at the things which are seen, but at the things which are not seen: for the things which are seen are temporal; but the things which are not seen are eternal.

 

 

REASSESS YOUR PAST, PRESENT GOALS APPROACH

 

Yes even too many persons have erred, have pursued ill advised goals,, approaches in reality

 

(Job 5:13 KJV)  He taketh the wise in their own craftiness: and the counsel of the froward is carried headlong.

 

(Psa 81:12 KJV)  So I gave them up unto their own hearts’ lust: and they walked in their own counsels.

 

(Prov 11:6 KJV)  The righteousness of the upright shall deliver them: but transgressors shall be taken in their own naughtiness.

 

(Prov 30:12 KJV)  There is a generation that are pure in their own eyes, and yet is not washed from their filthiness.

 

(Isa 5:21 KJV)  Woe unto them that are wise in their own eyes, and prudent in their own sight!

 

(1 Cor 3:19 KJV)  For the wisdom of this world is foolishness with God. For it is written, He taketh the wise in their own craftiness.

 

(2 Pet 2:12 KJV)  But these, as natural brute beasts, made to be taken and destroyed, speak evil of the things that they understand not; and shall utterly perish in their own corruption;

 

 

DON’T LOOK TO OTHERS FOR HELP. JUSTICE FOR YOU WILL BE   GREATLY DISAPPOINTED

 

(Jer 17:5 KJV)  Thus saith the LORD; Cursed be the man that trusteth in man, and maketh flesh his arm, and whose heart departeth from the LORD.6  For he shall be like the heath in the desert, and shall not see when good cometh; but shall inhabit the parched places in the wilderness, in a salt land and not inhabited. 7  Blessed is the man that trusteth in the LORD, and whose hope the LORD is. 8  For he shall be as a tree planted by the waters, and that spreadeth out her roots by the river, and shall not see when heat cometh, but her leaf shall be green; and shall not be careful in the year of drought, neither shall cease from yielding fruit.

 

(Isa 40:21 KJV)  Have ye not known? have ye not heard? hath it not been told you from the beginning? have ye not understood from the foundations of the earth? 22  It is he that sitteth upon the circle of the earth, and the inhabitants thereof are as grasshoppers; that stretcheth out the heavens as a curtain, and spreadeth them out as a tent to dwell in: 23  That bringeth the princes to nothing; he maketh the judges of the earth as vanity. 24  Yea, they shall not be planted; yea, they shall not be sown: yea, their stock shall not take root in the earth: and he shall also blow upon them, and they shall wither, and the whirlwind shall take them away as stubble. 25  To whom then will ye liken me, or shall I be equal? saith the Holy One. 26  Lift up your eyes on high, and behold who hath created these things, that bringeth out their host by number: he calleth them all by names by the greatness of his might, for that he is strong in power; not one faileth. 27  Why sayest thou, O Jacob, and speakest, O Israel, My way is hid from the LORD, and my judgment is passed over from my God? 28  Hast thou not known? hast thou not heard, that the everlasting God, the LORD, the Creator of the ends of the earth, fainteth not, neither is weary? there is no searching of his understanding. 29  He giveth power to the faint; and to them that have no might he increaseth strength. 30  Even the youths shall faint and be weary, and the young men shall utterly fall: 31  But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.

 

(Isa 57:13 KJV)  When thou criest, let thy companies deliver thee; but the wind shall carry them all away; vanity shall take them: but he that putteth his trust in me shall possess the land, and shall inherit my holy mountain;

 

(Prov 29:25 KJV)  The fear of man bringeth a snare: but whoso putteth his trust in the LORD shall be safe.

   

 

REASSESS YOUR SITUATION IN GOD’S EYES

  

(Rom 8:28 KJV)  And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. 29  For whom he did foreknow, he also did predestinate to be conformed to the image of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brethren. 30  Moreover whom he did predestinate, them he also called: and whom he called, them he also justified: and whom he justified, them he also glorified. 31  What shall we then say to these things? If God be for us, who can be against us? 32  He that spared not his own Son, but delivered him up for us all, how shall he not with him also freely give us all things? 33  Who shall lay any thing to the charge of God’s elect? It is God that justifieth. 34  Who is he that condemneth? It is Christ that died, yea rather, that is risen again, who is even at the right hand of God, who also maketh intercession for us. 35  Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword? 36  As it is written, For thy sake we are killed all the day long; we are accounted as sheep for the slaughter. 37  Nay, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him that loved us. 38  For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come, 39  Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord. 29  For whom he did foreknow, he also did predestinate to be conformed to the image of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brethren. 30  Moreover whom he did predestinate, them he also called: and whom he called, them he also justified: and whom he justified, them he also glorified. 31  What shall we then say to these things? If God be for us, who can be against us? 32  He that spared not his own Son, but delivered him up for us all, how shall he not with him also freely give us all things? 33  Who shall lay any thing to the charge of God’s elect? It is God that justifieth. 34  Who is he that condemneth? It is Christ that died, yea rather, that is risen again, who is even at the right hand of God, who also maketh intercession for us. 35  Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword? 36  As it is written, For thy sake we are killed all the day long; we are accounted as sheep for the slaughter. 37  Nay, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him that loved us. 38  For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come, 39  Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.

  

(Psa 4:5 KJV)  Offer the sacrifices of righteousness, and put your trust in the LORD.

 

(Psa 37:3 KJV)  Trust in the LORD, and do good; so shalt thou dwell in the land, and verily thou shalt be fed.

 

(Psa 40:3 KJV)  And he hath put a new song in my mouth, even praise unto our God: many shall see it, and fear, and shall trust in the LORD.

 

(Luke 18:1 KJV)  And he spake a parable unto them to this end, that men ought always to pray, and not to faint;

 

(2 Cor 4:16 KJV)  For which cause we faint not; but though our outward man perish, yet the inward man is renewed day by day.

 

(Gal 6:9 KJV)  And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.

 

 (Heb 12:3 KJV)  For consider him that endured such contradiction of sinners against himself, lest ye be wearied and faint in your minds.

(Heb 12:5 KJV)  And ye have forgotten the exhortation which speaketh unto you as unto children, My son, despise not thou the chastening of the Lord, nor faint when thou art rebuked of him:

(1 Pet 1:6 KJV)  Wherein ye greatly rejoice, though now for a season, if need be, ye are in heaviness through manifold temptations: 7  That the trial of your faith, being much more precious than of gold that perisheth, though it be tried with fire, might be found unto praise and honour and glory at the appearing of Jesus Christ: 8    Whom having not seen, ye love; in whom, though now ye see him not, yet believing, ye rejoice with joy unspeakable and full of glory: 9  Receiving the end of your faith, even the salvation of your souls.

(Rom 8:18 KJV)  For I reckon that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us.

(1 Cor 11:32 KJV)  But when we are judged, we are chastened of the Lord, that we should not be condemned with the world.

(Rom 15:4 KJV)  For whatsoever things were written aforetime were written for our learning, that we through patience and comfort of the scriptures might have hope.

Also do  Ask others to pray for you, tell them about tour situation

 

Get some good prayer partners, good people in the church who will pray for you and not rather curse you..

GET UP AND GO ON AGAINDo learn from your past mistakes and go on.

  

(Eccl 7:9 KJV)  Be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry: for anger resteth in the bosom of fools. 10  Say not thou, What is the cause that the former days were better than these? for thou dost not inquire wisely concerning this. 11  Wisdom is good with an inheritance: and by it there is profit to them that see the sun. 12  For wisdom is a defence, and money is a defence: but the excellency of knowledge is, that wisdom giveth life to them that have it. 13  Consider the work of God: for who can make that straight, which he hath made crooked? 14  In the day of prosperity be joyful, but in the day of adversity consider: God also hath set the one over against the other, to the end that man should find nothing after him. 15  All things have I seen in the days of my vanity: there is a just man that perisheth in his righteousness, and there is a wicked man that prolongeth his life in his wickedness. 16  Be not righteous over much; neither make thyself over wise: why shouldest thou destroy thyself? 17  Be not over much wicked, neither be thou foolish: why shouldest thou die before thy time? 18  It is good that thou shouldest take hold of this; yea, also from this withdraw not thine hand: for he that feareth God shall come forth of them all. 19  Wisdom strengtheneth the wise more than ten mighty men which are in the city. 20  For there is not a just man upon earth, that doeth good, and sinneth not. 21  Also take no heed unto all words that are spoken; lest thou hear thy servant curse thee: 22  For oftentimes also thine own heart knoweth that thou thyself likewise hast cursed others.

 

WHAT TO DO WITH THE UNEXPECTED

 

Learn how to positively react to them,  and not negatively..

 

(1 Pet 3:4 KJV)  But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.

 

 

 

Prayer of Saint Francis of Assisi

 Lord, make me an instrument of your peace.
Where there is hatred, let me sow love;
where there is injury, pardon;
where there is doubt, faith;
where there is despair, hope;
where there is darkness, light;
and where there is sadness, joy.

O Divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek
to be consoled as to console;
to be understood as to understand;
to be loved as to love.
For it is in giving that we receive;
it is in pardoning that we are pardoned;
and it is in dying that we are born to eternal life. Amen

 Further suggested readings

http://postedat.wordpress.com/2010/02/18/she-was-selfish-self-absorbed-self-centered/

https://stayinhealth.wordpress.com/2008/11/21/anti-suicide-watch/

Thinking about God reduces our personal distress,

  http://witnessed.wordpress.com/2010/08/08/thinking-about-god-reduces-distress/

 

There are still negative personal consequences for following after vanities

    http://postedat.wordpress.com/2010/10/03/there-are-still-negative-personal-consequences-for-following-after-vanities/

 

Marriage problems or a relationship problem? Marriage problems or a relationship problem?

    http://postedat.wordpress.com/2010/09/26/marriage-problems-or-a-realtionship-problem/

 

Dealing effectively with life’s problems  

    http://postedat.wordpress.com/2010/09/19/dealing-effectively-with-lifes-problems/

 

We are all at WAR so act like it.

    http://postedat.wordpress.com/2010/09/17/we-are-all-at-war-so-act-like-it/

 

Pride leads to destruction and humility to honour.. What motivates many persons these days?

   http://postedat.wordpress.com/2010/06/05/pride-leads-to-destruction-and-humility-to-honour-what-motivates-many-persons-these-days/

 

Coping with Personal unresolved Stress

   http://thefocusonthefamily.wordpress.com/2008/12/29/coping-with-personal-unresolved-stress/

 

Marriage breakdown 

   http://thefocusonthefamily.wordpress.com/2009/06/11/marriage-breakdown/

 

Throw the bum out..

    http://thefocusonthefamily.wordpress.com/2009/04/03/throw-the-bum-out/

You shall know the truth

   http://postedat.wordpress.com/2010/10/03/you-shall-know-the-truth/

 

Did I Miss God’s Will for My Life? By R. A. Torrey

  http://cityocean.wordpress.com/2010/09/02/did-i-miss-gods-will-for-my-life-by-r-a-torrey/

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God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
Forever in the next.
Amen.

–Reinhold Niebuhr

 (2 Cor 1:3 KJV)  Blessed be God, even the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies, and the God of all comfort;

(2 Cor 1:4 KJV)  Who comforteth us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort them which are in any trouble, by the comfort wherewith we ourselves are comforted of God.

 (1 Th 5:14 KJV)  Now we exhort you, brethren, warn them that are unruly, comfort the feebleminded, support the weak, be patient toward all men.

(2 Th 2:17 KJV)  Comfort your hearts, and stablish you in every good word and work.

 Give Them All To Jesus
Recorded by Cristy Lane written by Phil Johnson and Bob Benson Sr.

Are you tried of chasing pretty rainbows
Are you tired of spinning round and round
Wrap up all the shattered dreams of your life
And at the feet of Jesus lay them down
Give them all give them all give them all to Jesus
Shattered dreams wounded hearts broken toys
Give them all give them all give them all to Jesus
And He will turn your sorrow into joy

He never said you would only see sunshine
He never said there would be no rain
He only promised us a heart full of singing
That’s the very thing that once brought pain
Give them all give them all give them all to Jesus
Shattered dreams wounded hearts broken toys
Give them all give them all give them all to Jesus
And He will turn your sorrow into joy.

“As I look back at all the past events of my life the last 50 years I noted that everyone of the worst possible events that had occurred in my life had next also undeniably  the biggest blessings in my life when I had turned it all to Jesus.”

TURN YOUR EYES UPON JESUS!

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O soul, are you weary and troubled?
No light in the darkness you see?
There’s light for a look at the Savior,
And life more abundant and free!

CHORUS
TURN YOUR EYES UPON JESUS,
LOOK FULL IN HIS WONDERFUL FACE,
AND THE THINGS OF EARTH
WILL GROW STRANGELY DIM
IN THE LIGHT OF HIS GLORY AND GRACE.

II
Thro’ death into life everlasting
He passed, and we follow Him there;
Over us sin no more hath dominion
For more than conqu’rors we are!

CHORUS

III
His word shall not fail you He promised;
Believe Him, and all will be well;
Then go to a world that is dying,
His perfect salvation to tell!

CHORUS